Dating can be difficult enough without adding recovery and a pandemic to the mix. If you’re open to changing your dating habits and methods to find the love of your life, however, dating can be special during these perilous times. Here are a few ways to establish successful relationships without putting yourself at risk of COVID.
Be selective in the people you choose to date. Decide what kind of relationship you want and the qualities that are important to you in a partner. Then make your expectations known to prospective suitors to find someone that’s more likely to meet your wants and needs. If you’re working with a sponsor or therapist share your plans with them for any wisdom and insight they may have.
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Get to Know One Another Remotely
Meeting remotely, aka video dating, allows you to get to know someone better before meeting in person. You can talk more openly and honestly during a video chat without being distracted by others or your surroundings. This gives you a chance to share matters of the heart to see if there’s a connection worth pursuing.
Honesty is of utmost importance at this time. If you’re on in recovery, and planning to date someone not in recovery take time to explain your recovery journey and the lessons you’re learning, as this is part of who you are. Don’t try to hide this fact, as it could backfire on you later down the line.
Meet in Person
If your virtual connection is good, you can meet in person. For safety sake, it’s best to test for COVID first, quarantine for 2 weeks, and then set up a meeting. This is assuming, of course, that you’re both on the same page concerning COVID guidelines. If you have differing opinions concerning COVID safety, you may want to forgo trying to establish a relationship at this time. These are issues you need to discuss before setting up a meet. When meeting, consider open spaces like a park, beach, or other outdoor settings where it’s easy to social distance.
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Integrate Your Date into Your Social Bubble
Continue social distance dating until you feel comfortable enough to add each other to your “social bubble” (people you feel safe having physical contact with due to their taking measures to protect themselves from COVID19.) This allows you to establish a more intimate relationship without worrying about your safety. Once you’ve made that commitment, discuss ways to carry on your relationship without compromising your health, particularly during recovery.
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