Forgiving yourself, otherwise known as making amends to yourself, doesn’t mean that you forget the consequences. It also doesn’t mean you don’t consider how your actions negatively affect others. Instead, forgiving yourself means you’ve taken the following measures.
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You recognized the wrongs you’ve done.
Healing takes place when you face wrongs you’ve committed to others. This usually happens after you feel remorse for what you did to them. However, you perhaps forgot how unkind you were to yourself at times too.
If you’re ever going to accept yourself for who you are, you need to come to terms with your self-abuse and lack of self-care and move past it. Take steps to show you that you do love yourself and keep up the good work until you achieve total self-acceptance. When working the 12 steps of recovery a more in-depth approach can be taken.
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You corrected your actions and apologized.
It’s not always possible to reach people you want to make amends with. However, you still need to work through the process of making things right. For instance, if it’s a deceased person you never asked forgiveness from while that individual was still alive, you might need to write a letter or speak your request for forgiveness out loud. This action can have a similar effect as if that person was still with you.
If you also did your best, amends work with living people, and they accepted you back in and trust you, that’s when you might need self-forgiveness. It’s time to stop rehashing what you’ve done – which is understandable because people do that so they don’t repeat those mistakes, but you can’t stay stuck in that.
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You don’t let past mistakes affect you now.
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No one has lived a spotless past, so why should you expect perfection from yourself before you can achieve serenity? If you’ve made amends to yourself, you won’t let what you did last week or 20 years ago stop you from success now.